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Every Argument Pushes Your Relationship Closer to the Breaking Point
Finally, a Proven Way to End Arguments Before They Begin
Stop Arguments Cold is the 8-week coaching program that helps ambitious professionals and their partners break free from constant conflict and finally create the calm, connected relationship they’ve been longing for - without years of therapy, communication scripts, or rehashing the past.
Even if you’ve been fighting for years, even if nothing else has worked, this will.
Smart, Successful, and Still Stuck in the Same Fights? Here’s Why:
If you’re like many high-achieving couples, small conversations often spiral into arguments, leaving both of you frustrated and disconnected:
Conversations that start calmly quickly escalate into blowups.
You feel like you’re walking on eggshells, never knowing what will trigger conflict.
Silent treatments or cold shoulders last for days after disagreements.
Old resentments replay in your mind, keeping you stuck instead of moving forward.
Even though you’ve tried books, “I statements,” or therapy, the same fights keep repeating. The skills that make you successful at work - logic, problem-solving, analysis - simply don’t work in emotional situations at home.
The Hidden Costs of Constant Conflict
Every fight doesn’t just hurt your relationship - it drains your energy, distracts your focus, and silently bleeds into your career.
Lost focus at work means lost opportunities.
Constant tension at home kills creativity and clarity.
Stress eats away at the energy you need to lead, perform, and succeed.
The truth: recurring arguments cost far more than peace at home - they cost you money, momentum, and the life you’ve worked so hard to build.
A Simple Skill That Changes Everything
What if you could stop an argument before it ever began?
What if disagreements led to a deeper connection instead of distance?
What if you finally felt understood - and your partner did too.
That’s exactly what you’ll learn inside Stop Arguments Cold. This isn’t therapy, scripts, or “managing” conflict. It’s a proven three-step skill, called affect labeling, that teaches you how to:
Ignore the words and stop getting hooked into the fight.
Read the emotions underneath the words - the real drivers of conflict.
Reflect those emotions back with a simple “you” statement that immediately calms the storm.
When you master this process, fights lose their power. Conversations feel safe again. Intimacy and trust return.
How Stop Arguments Cold Works
You’ll learn the affect labeling skill step by step in an online course you can access anytime, plus weekly live coaching to practice and refine it.
8 Weeks Of Live Group Coaching
One hour per week with Doug Noll to master the skill in real conversations.
On-Demand Course Access
Short, focused lessons that show you exactly how to apply the skill in your daily life.
Immediate Impact
Most clients feel results in the first or second week - if you use the skill, you’ll see the shift right away.
Even if you’ve been fighting for years, even if you’ve tried everything else, this simple process works.
Who This Program Is For
Stop Arguments Cold is designed for:
High-performing professionals who succeed everywhere but at home.
Couples in committed relationships who feel stuck in recurring conflicts.
Partners ready to replace defensiveness with connection, even in tough conversations.
Who This Program Is NOT For
This program is not the right fit for everyone. It won’t work for people who:
Believe their abilities and relationship dynamics are fixed and unchangeable.
Expect their partner alone to change without personal effort.
Are unwilling to practice a new skill consistently over 8 weeks.
What Happens If You Do Nothing
If nothing changes, conflicts won’t fade - they’ll escalate. Arguments get harsher, distance grows, and the energy you need for your career and relationship keeps draining away. The longer you wait, the harder it becomes to repair.
Arguments intensify instead of resolving on their own.
Emotional distance and resentment grow between you and your partner.
Children notice and may begin mimicking unhealthy communication patterns.
Professional focus suffers as emotional stress drains your energy.
The long-term health of your relationship is at risk.
Every month you wait compounds the damage and makes repair harder. One simple skill can change the trajectory starting this week.
Why This Works When Nothing Else Has
Unlike therapy or communication books, Stop Arguments Cold doesn’t ask you to:
Spend years digging into childhood wounds.
Memorize complex scripts you’ll forget in the heat of the moment.
Accept distance as “just the way things are.”
Instead, you’ll learn a simple, science-backed skill that instantly diffuses conflict and rewires how you communicate for life.
Meet Doug Noll: Lawyer-Turned-Peacemaker
I know what it’s like to face seemingly impossible challenges. I was born nearly blind, crippled with club feet, partially deaf, and left-handed.
Despite these obstacles, I became a successful civil trial lawyer. In 2000, I realized my true calling wasn’t in the courtroom - it was in helping people resolve conflict and create peace.
Since then, I’ve dedicated my life to teaching people that fights and arguments are unnecessary, and that they can be stopped - often in 90 seconds or less - with a simple, powerful skill.
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Former civil trial lawyer turned international peacemaker and mediator.
MA in Peacemaking and Conflict Studies; undergraduate degree from Dartmouth College.
Co-founder of Prison of Peace, training inmates to become peacemakers and reduce violence.
Author of four award-winning books; fifth book on leadership empathy coming in 2026.
Recognized with awards including California Lawyer of the Year, Purpose Prize Fellow, and Neutral of the Year.
Trained thousands worldwide in the affect labeling de-escalation method.
My mission is simple: To give you the tools to stop arguments cold, reconnect deeply with your partner, and replace frustration and distance with understanding, trust, and lasting peace.
Your Next Step: Choose Peace Today
You have two choices.
Option 1: Keep repeating the same painful cycles - arguments that escalate, silent treatments that last for days, intimacy that fades until nothing is left.
Option 2: Learn the simple skill that stops arguments cold and restores trust, connection, and peace in your relationship.
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